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Jacob Learns From Laban’s Deceit

Immanuel Shalev
Immanuel Shalev


When we first met Jacob in the previous parsha, he was in a pretty unfair position. His father favored his brother Esav, and, by the end of the parsha, it seemed like he was ready to leave Jacob out of the family legacy. When Jacob learned about Isaac’s plans to pass blessings on to Esav, he was forced to make a difficult choice: Should he resign himself to his father’s decision, or should he do something about it? In the end, Jacob chose to deceive his father Isaac and take the blessings for himself.

Which leaves us wondering, did Jacob make the wrong decision? On the one hand, he tricked his father and stole from his brother – that doesn’t seem right. On the other hand, what was he supposed to do? Sit back, accept that he was unloved and let himself become irrelevant? That doesn’t seem right either. So what’s the answer? A closer look at our parsha may tell us. Join Imu and David as they explore a number of fascinating links between the story of Jacob’s deceit of Isaac in the previous parsha, and his interactions with his uncle Lavan in this parsha. These links may suggest what Jacob should in fact have done – and reveal a key insight into Jacob’s evolving character.

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