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This week, I want to deal with a painful and difficult story that begins and ends at last week's Parsha and continue in this week's Parsha. It's the story of Abraham and Sarai and their difficult interaction, with Hagar and her son, Ishmael. Last week's Parsha involves Hagar, this Egyptian maid servant, who actually becomes the mother of Abraham's first child, Ishmael. And while she is pregnant with that child, vate'aneha Sarai, Sarai oppressed her but vativrach mipaneiha, she ran away from her. And it doesn't get much better in this week's Parshat.
Hagar is expelled from the family. Sarai insists on it. God concurs, and Abraham does it. But again, in another difficult and painful story, and the commentators view it as a difficult and painful story, Nachmanides, for example, takes Sarai for the task and Abraham for the oppression of Hagar, calls it a sin. Why is the Bible focusing on this sin?
I think one answer goes back to an idea I shared with you back in Parshat Noach about the Torah being a guidebook; it's telling history from the perspective of guiding you. And if you are being guided, it may well be as the Torah seeks to guide us by highlighting the sins of our ancestors as a way of letting us know what it is that we need to be careful about as a nation. At least, that's a possibility. And if that's true, then it is possible that Sarai's sin was more subtle than might be gleaned by looking at the stacks of first lands. I've actually composed an audio epilogue that really takes a look carefully at the nuances in the text; and I think a story behind the story emerges to what was going on in Sarai and Abraham's head. But for the meantime, I want to take you on a little journey - a journey through words. Because I think these stories are the interaction of Abraham, Sarai and Hagar. They're not little local stories, they are the beginning of an epic story and I want to pick up the threads with you, and see if we can see where they lead.
Let's start with last week's Parsha, the introductory verse into the introduction to Hagar. VeSarai eshet Avram lo yaledah lo velah shifchah Mitzrit ushmah Hagar. Sarai didn't have a child but she did have an Egyptian maidservant by the name of Hagar. Now Let me ask you a question. Why did the Torah have to go out of it's way to let you know Hagar's nationality? Who cares about that? And now, let's talk about context a little bit.
Remember how this story takes place right after that prophetic moment when Abraham was first told that he was going to have a biological child? Well, something else happened at that prophetic moment, too! A dark, prophetic nightmare, through which Abraham found out a shocking news. Ger yihyeh zar'acha be'eretz lo lahem va'avadum ve'inu otam arba me'ot shanah. Your children are going to find themselves strangers in a land not their own, and the inhabitants of that land will enslave them for 400 years." We, at this point in Genesis, don't know what that land will be. But of course, it's a prophecy that refers to what will ultimately become the 'Egyptian servitude'. Abraham's children will be gerim, strangers, in another household; they will be enslaved in Egypt.
Isn't it interesting? In the very next chapter, we meet a woman who is a servant in Abraham's household and what happens to her? The verb that she experiences is 'oppression' in Hebrew, inui, the very same verb that God says Abraham's children are going to experience, when they are enslaved in someone else's household. But we know who's household it ends up being, right? Egypt! Well, isn't it very interesting that the Torah gives us the nationality of this maidservant who is oppressed in Abraham's household? She was Egyptian!
And now, let's talk about her name. What does hey-gimel-resh spell to you? Hager, the stranger! Ger yihyeh zar'acha be'eretz lo lahem. Your children will be strangers in someone else's house." You had Hagar who felt her herself to be a stranger in your house. She suffered oppression, and now your children will feel oppression for 400 years in Egypt's household. It seems that right here in Chapter 16 in the Book of Genesis, we're beginning to get the hints of a gathering storm. Egyptian slavery doesn't come out of nowhere; there are seeds. This seems to be one of the seeds.
Okay, now let's stop for just a minute. Maybe at this point, you sit back and you say, "You know, Rabbi Fohrman, that's really very interesting. But could this really me true? Is there anymore evidence that supports this? I don't really buy this!" Well, as a matter of fact, there is really more evidence and it's in this week's Parsha, the story of the expulsion of Ishmael and Hagar.
Ishmael was taunting young Isaac; the rivalry was spilling into the next generation. Sarai comes to the conclusion that it must stop, Hagar must leave. Abraham wakes up in the morning, vayikach-lechem vechemat mayim, he gives her bread and some water; vayiten el-Hagar, gives it to Hagar; sam al-shichmah, places it on her shoulder and she goes. vatelech vateta bemidbar Be'er-sheva, and in the dessert, she gets lost, confused. The water in the canteen runs out, she casts Ishmael down beneath some bramble branches; she situates herself in distance away, and she lets up her voice. She cries; she expects her child to die.
A miracle occurs! An angel comes, tells her, al-tire'i, do not fear, Hagar. Ki-legoy gadol asimenu, I will make your child into a great nation." Hagar opens her eyes; miraculously, there is a well there. She gives water to the child and he lives, and her journey through the desert goes on. What does this story remind you of?
Hagar left servitude and entered a forbidden dessert. Who else leaves servitude and enters a dessert? Oh! That's what we do, as a nation. When we leave Egypt, Hagar's homeland, after those centuries of slavery promised to Abraham. We leave and enter into a dessert into a midbar. It's the very same word, midbar, which was used to describe the place that Hagar went it. What happened to Hagar when she left? She lost her way; she was just wondering around the dessert. What happened to the nation of Israel just after they leave? Va’amar Paroh livenei Yisrael, And Pharaoh will say about the Jewish people," God says, nivuchim hem baaretz, the people are confused, they are lost in the desert. Sagar aleihem hamidbar, the dessert has swallowed them up!" So,Hagar gets lost in the desert and God orchestrates things. So, it seems that the Jews get lost in the desert.
What happened next to Hagar? She experiences a water crisis! And guess what? As we appeared to wander into the dessert, we, the nation of Israel, experience, too, water crisis. As the Egyptians closed in, our backs were to a wall of water - the Red Sea was behind us. Immediately after the Red Sea, the Jews go 3 days and they can't find water. They are dying of thirst. One water crisis for them, two for us.
Divine intervention protected Hagar; divine intervention protects us. The sea splits, and just as Hagar and Ishmael experience a miraculous relief from thirst, so do we, as Moses throws a branch in a bitter oasis of water, to sweeten the water so that we all can drink. Unless you think it is a coincidence, when an angel intercede to protect Hagar and Ishmael, He tells her, al-tire'i, do not fear, Hagar!" What is it that Moses say to the Jews, right before the miracle of the water of the Red Sea? Al-tira’u, do not fear! It's the same words.
And speaking of the same words, as Abraham sends out Hagar, he gives her bread, sam al-shichmah, and places it on her shoulder. When else do we have someone leaving, placing bread on her shoulders? Chapter 12, Verse 34. "The people took their dough even before it could rise; tsrurot besimlotam al-shichmam, tied up in their clothes, placed on their shoulders." Bread on your shoulders, as you leave. It's how we took our matza with us, as we left Egypt, our household of slavery.
In these stories of Hagar and Ishmael, we have the beginning of seeds that come into scary fruition in the book of Exodus. The seeds that presage our redemption as well. The Torah is a guidebook; it doesn't just highlight the mistakes of our fathers and mothers for no reason. We are meant to actually learn things from these stories. What are we meant to learn here? As we leave Egypt, what is one of the expectations that we hear over and over, and over, again? Ve’ahavta et hager, love the stranger; v’ger lo tona, don't wrong the stranger; ki-gerim heyitem be'eretz Mitzrayim, you know what it's like to be a stranger; you were a stranger in Egypt!"
The Torah wants us to walk out of Egypt with this sensitivity towards people who feel like the author in our bits. The Exodus of Egypt, after all, was the birth of a nation. A nation means us - people like us; but what about them? The people who are strangers, who don't belong? We still have strangers in our lives today. There's all kinds of gerim; it's a word used for a convert. How do we walk on converts? It's a word used for people who don't share our faith - the good, moral people who live in our midst too. How Do we treat them?
And there are other kinds of strangers - the housekeeper at home. How do you treat them? You're walking down the street, you always say 'hello' to people you know. Or, will you smile at one of the people who seems different to you as they are walking towards you? It's not just you have to ve'ahavta lere'acha kamocha, love your neighbours, yourself and the Torah. It's also ve’ahavta et hager, love the stranger, too.
1. Bereishit: Thank You, God...For Not Making Me A Woman?
2. Noach: Why Aren't Dinosaurs In the Torah?
3. Lech Lecha: The Battle For Abraham's Legacy
4. Vayeira: Abram, Sarai, Hagar, Ishmael and...Exodus?
5. Vayeira: Epilogue
6. Chayei Sarah: Eliezer and Samuel's Surprising Connection
7. Toldot: What Is Isaac's Legacy?
8. Vayeitzei: Understanding Rachel's World
9. Vayishlach: From Jacob to Israel
10. Vayeishev: Does God Speak To Us Today?
11. Miketz: Reversing the Sale of Joseph
12. Vayigash: Understanding Pharaoh's Dream
13. Vayechi: A Tap On The Shoulder
14. Shmot: Does God Really "Love" Us?
15. Va'era: Seeing God in Science
16. Bo: God's Justice In Action
17. Beshalach: Fruit Trees In the Sea?
18. Beshalach: Epilogue
19. Yitro: Seeing Ten Commandments in the Burning Bush
20. Mishpatim: Does Our History Become Laws?
21. Mishpatim: Epilogue
22. Terumah: Angels In the Tabernacle? Part I/2
23. Tetzaveh: Angels In the Tabernacle?- Part 2/2
24. Ki Tisa: A Closer Look At Kiddush
25. Pekudei: A Giant Chiasm In Sefer Shmot
26. Vayikra: How Can We Relate To Sacrifices Today?
27. Tzav: A Deeper Look At The Priestly Role
28. Tzav: Epilogue
29. Shemini: What Does Aaron Teach Us About Loss?
30. Tazria-Metzora: Rejoining the Community
31. Acharei Mot-Kedoshim: Social Justice...and Sacrifices?
32. Behar-Bechukotai: Walking With God
33. Bamidbar: Why We Count
34. Beha'alotecha: Where It All Went Wrong
35. Shelach: How Can We Relate To Such a Vengeful God?
36. Korach: Why Did Korach Rebel?
37. Chukat: Why Did Moses Hit The Rock?
38. Balak: What Is Israel's Purpose In The World?
39. Pinchas: What Is True Leadership?
40. Matot-Masei: The Art of Negotiation
41. Devarim: What Did Moses Do Wrong?- Part 1/2
42. Va'etchanan: What Did Moses Do Wrong?- Part 2/2
43. Eikev: Why Does The Nation Of Israel Merit The Land?
44. Re'eh: Why Do We Need Both Oral and Written Law?
45. Shoftim: The Significance of Saving Private Ryan
46. Ki Teitzei: How To Merit Long Life
47. Ki Tavo: The Pursuit of Happiness- Part 1
48. Nitzavim: The Pursuit of Happiness- Part 2/2
49. Ha'azinu: Moses' Farewell To Israel, Part 2/3
50. V'Zot Habracha: Moses' Farewell To Israel, Part 3/3
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